So Prince Baby #3 is due any moment and I realized that when I packed my hospital bag the other night that I didn’t have my birth plan copies on there. My midwife and I already discussed everything, and I’m confident that she won’t even need to read it.
But I want my nurses to know what the plan is, and what it is when all else fails. So I put together my simple birth plan and knew that you’d want a printable birth plan form as well. It’s hard gathering all your thoughts and trying to remember every single detail about what you want to happen at best during your birth. Now you won’t miss a thing.
What’s In Sarah’s Birth Plan?
First off, here’s my simple birth plan. You can find a variety of versions for free in many places, like the Sample Birth Plans page. But actually reading once from someone who’s been there and back….twice, may actually be refreshing and better understood than the all the medical jargon or concepts that aren’t preferred.
Sarah Prince
BIRTH PLAN – Baby Boy
Practitioner: (my midwife’s name here)
We desire to have as natural a birth as possible. Though we know we cannot control every aspect of our birth experience, please keep us aware and involve us in any changes to circumstances that may need to be made. Please do not implement any procedures or administrations without our consent.
Labor
- Ability to move around and position as desired
- Limited and minimal monitoring as needed
- Use of any relaxation methods: tub, birthing ball, squat bar, etc.
- No medication whatsoever
- Any personnel or visitors beyond limited necessary staff need our permission to be present
- Don’t want water broken unless requested
Pushing & Delivery
- Any position that I desire, mainly upright and/or on all fours
- Do not direct pushing, will follow bodily cues
- Perineum support with warm compresses, if possible
- Don’t want baby pulled out after head emerges, prefer complete natural expulsion
Post Delivery
- NO CORD CLAMPING, hold baby level until pulse has ceased in the cord
- Immediate skin to skin after delivery
- Natural expulsion of the placenta
- No Pitocin unless there is heavy blood flow
- Baby to NOT have antibiotics on his eyes
- Baby does not need to be dried off quickly, cleaning can wait
Recovery
- Baby with mother at all times possible for nursing and skin to skin
- DO NOT provide formula to baby
- Mother to do fundal massage herself
In the case of an emergency, we do not wish a cesarean unless it is the last option where the life of the mother or baby is at stake. We trust our healthcare team will make the best decisions possible in this case.
CONTINGENCY
- Mother & Father together all times possible while staying awake through procedures
- Use a low transverse incision
- Allowed to hold and nurse baby in NICU as much as possible
- Inform us of any procedures that need to be done with our consent
Thank you! 🙂
So why did I choose a few of the things that I did? I’ll just touch on a few points that I know will also be important to you, then I’ll get you to your printable form.
- Do not direct pushing – I have had two posterior babies and have torn pretty bad each time. I don’t want to repeat that. So this time I’m going to do my best to NOT push as much as possible. Why? Because I know that my body and uterus have natural ejection responses once I’m fully dilated. Yours does too. That urge you feel to push, you know? You actually don’t HAVE to push because your body is doing it all on its own. I’m really good at pushing; I mastered it with baby #2. But I don’t want to tear. So we’ll see what happens when I try to just breathe my baby out. Part of all that is me wanting my perineum supported too. Hopefully, the warm compresses will help.
- No cord clamping – Delayed cord clamping has been shown to provide a lifetime of benefits that you don’t want to lose. A third of your baby’s blood is still in the placenta upon delivery and I want mine to get every drop. I don’t keep my placentas, but I sure want my baby to keep all of his blood.
- Baby to not have antibiotics on his eyes – In the state where I live I can deny this practice. It’s for the babies whose mothers have been confirmed with cases of gonorrhea. The antibiotics limit the exposure and transfer of the condition to your baby. But I don’t have gonorrhea and feel it’s unnecessary.
- Use a low transverse incision – I sure hope and pray that I don’t have to have a cesarean, but I am not closed to the possibility if it means it will save my child. However, there are a number of different ways a surgeon can cut open your belly in order to pull that baby out. A low transverse cut has been shown to be the best option for successful vaginal births after cesareans. And if I have more children, this is what I want.
Let me know if you have any questions about other things that I put in my plan. Feel free to comment below or use the contact form to send me an email. I respond quickly to everyone. 🙂
Printable Birth Plan Form
I don’t think a new mother should simply copy directly ANY birth plan she comes across. More complex ones can certainly be referenced to, but you need to understand what you’re actually reading or asking for and why. Things you want may be disagreeable with your doctor. So I encourage you to always communicate clearly with your practitioner about your wants and desires while also being open to changes.
Here are all of the questions you can consider when you fill out the form to help you make the right decisions for your family:
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- Who do you want present at the birth?
- Do you want your husband or birth partner with you always?
- Are there allergies or physical conditions you have that your nurse and doctor need to be aware of?
- Do you prefer a hospital gown or your own clothing?
- Are there preparatory procedures that you don’t want, such as enema, shaving, automatic IV lines or membrane rupture?
- Do you want the lights dimmed or not?
- Do you want personnel to keep their voices and conversations to quiet levels and at a minimum?
- How do you want your birth documented with cameras, if at all?
- What foods, snacks or refreshments do you want allowed while in labor?
- Do you want to be able to use the restroom yourself, or prefer a catheter?
- What level and type of fetal monitoring do you prefer for your baby?
- How often do you want cervical checks for dilation?
- What types of pain relief options are desired?
- What tools and or facilities to you want to have access to and use in order to provide greater pain relief?
- Do you want your labor to be augmented with pitocin if the need arises?
- Do you prefer tearing or an episiotomy if the need arises?
- If an episiotomy is needed, how do you want the incision to be cut?
- What positions do you want to be in for your pushing and delivery?
- Do you need help with directed pushing or guidance during the baby’s descent?
- If intervention is needed with baby in the delivery canal, do you prefer the vacuum extraction or forceps for help?
- Do you want the father or birth partner to catch the baby?
- Do you want the baby placed on your chest immediate after birth for skin to skin contact?
- When do you want the cord clamped and/or cut after delivery?
- What newborn procedures do you wish to take place, and those you don’t?
- Do you want assistance in placental separation or prefer it to be done on it’s own?
- How do you want to leave the delivery room for recovery?
- Do you want your baby to have supplemental formula?
- Do you want to breastfeed your baby or have assistance with it?
- If an emergency arises, what are your most preferred courses of action for yourself and your baby?
- How do you want to be treated during a c-section if needed?
- If baby requires time in the NICU, what allowances do you want to have in order to provide care to your baby?
- Who is to be with your baby at all times?
- Do you want your baby in the nursery during your stay?
Just tell me where to send your printable birth plan form using the box below. Then just check the boxes you prefer and you’re set!
If you’re looking for sample plans that have been written out and not in a checklist type form, you can explore the Sample Birth Plans post for more ideas. Feel free to add, change, take away and make things your own.
Nobody can dictate what you feel is best for you and your baby’s delivery. My own birth plans have changed a little bit each time I’ve had another baby. There’s nothing wrong with choosing and sticking with what you’re comfortable with.
Then take it to your doctor or midwife, go over it, and clarify any standard procedures your birthing facility will require, or if there’s anything of concern from your provider. Be SURE to take it with you when you go into labor! Have it in your hospital bag, multiple copies too.
>> Remember Your Excellent Postpartum Delivery Bundle Too <<
You’re likely to have multiple nurses or staff you get to deal with and one copy just might get lost or set aside and forgotten about. Staying informed with the people who are there to take care of you makes for such a better birthing experience.
What questions do you have for me?


I have been reading several of your articles today! Just love them!! My husband and I are going to have our first in July. A few questions : In your points to consider while making our birthing plan, you stated that we should choose between tearing and episitomy, I was curious what your opinion is on that? (Of course I’d LOVE to avoid both with warm compress as well!) Also, can I simply request no vacuum extraction or forceps? Or if worse comes to worse do I need to give a preference, and if so what is yours? Last question, you stated you wanted “Mother to do fundal massage herself.” What does thag mean? Thank you SO much for all your knowledge!!
Hi Amber! Check out a few of these posts to answer your questions:
– What Is Episiotomy? Is It Worse Than Tearing?
– What Everyone Ought To Know About Vacuum Extraction For Birth (and forceps are hardly used anymore anyway)
– fundal massage is basically pressing and squishing down your belly to help push out excess blood and clotting that may be pooling in your uterus after the baby is out, and it helps stimulate the uterus to contract and start shrinking back down to size. I had a nurse push terribly hard on my belly and it hurt, then another one was very gentle. So I didn’t want to take a chance with my third one and I told her I’d massage it myself.
Let me know if you have any other questions!
Definitely talk the plan over with your doc — it’s important to make sure you’re both on the same page. Also, remember that the options included on our plan may not be available with every doctor or birthing center.
You’re exactly right, Jared. Some options that you may prefer may not be available in the facility or place you plan to deliver in. It should always be discussed beforehand. Even discussing your desires in the monthly visits leading up to your delivery would save more time and allow you to fully understand your options with more time and research. Thanks for the reminder!
Hi Sarah, I love this article. Even though I am a man. I am a father. And I think fathers can play an important part in the birth. I think having a birth plan is great. It seems that it could make a mother’s first child birth a better experience. The entire birth process has changed since my first child was born almost 40 years ago. The fathers have more of a chance to be a part of everything and I was wondering what kind of advice can you give fathers that will help them be better prepared.
Ron
Thank you for the reminder, Ron. I completely agree with you and I feel that the father should also have a big say and understanding in what goes into the planning of his child’s birth as well. Reading back over my post now, I realize that I didn’t emphasize that as much as I should have.
The hard part is when the parents don’t agree about how their child should be brought into the world. But usually it is the circumstance where there is conflict with the doctor or staff involved in a delivery. I imagine that you didn’t have much of a role in your children’s deliveries so long ago?
One thing that I do like about my #1 birthing course recommendation, The Birth Relaxation Kit, is that there are resources and guides intended specifically for the father or birth partner, in order to help them become more an integral part in the delivery and birthing process.
I appreciate your comments, Ron. Have a great weekend!
Hey, very nice site at the right time! My wife should give birth any moment now:) We also want as natural birth as possible so i found your birth plan very useful, i will bookmark it for my wife to see. Too bad my printer is down otherwise i would print it.
Great stuff, thanks for sharing.
Best regards
That’s wonderful! Is this your first one? I wish ou the best of luck with everything and hope it turns out just as you desire. Please let me know if ou have any last minute questions.
Make sure to get your wife a post-partum recovery essentials bundle so that she can get some relief while trying to heal as best as possible. Wishing you al the best, Kush!
Wow. I really didn’t think this way before but with this article you kind of opened my eyes. I’m a man so I didn’ have labor expirience but my wife had. She didn’t have a labor plan and we both didn’t even think about it because we tought doctors know what’s best for you. But that’s not always the case and doctors take this like a regular job and they only want to get it done as fast as possible,at least at our country. Now I think you should make the decisions about that how your labor is going to be because it’s about your body,about your baby,about your life.
That’s exactly right how you put it: your body, your baby, your life. If you were visiting a doctor for any other sort of treatment or condition, you would still have the final say, right? That’s how it should be with a labor & delivery of a child. Often times they DO know what’s best in extenuating circumstances that they don’t have time to explain, and we often have to trust them with a grain of salt. But overall, with any mother or set of parents that understand what they’d like to plan for, it becomes much more of an enjoyable experience. Thanks for commenting!
Wow Sarah, This is really useful! Thanks so much…I have sent this page too to my kids for their use and the use of their friends…
When I was having babies (well technically when my wife was having my babies), we did not think of anything like this. It would have been sooooo useful.
In the case of both the births (I have two girls), thank goodness all went well, for both my wife and the kids…Had we thought to prepare something like this though, things may have been easier…
Back in those days, things were kinda set in stone, but changing…For instance, with Patricia, my first, I was not allowed to stay in the room as she was giving birth…Seems kind of archaic in retrospect, lol…
I really appreciate and I am sure other almost parents or parents having more children your effort here, and it is quite simply extremely useful! Kudos to you, keep it up, you have an excellent collection of information and tips here!
Different times for different experiences, Dave. Thank you for sharing and let your kids know that I am here to help with any questions. All the information can be overwhelming, but is certainly vital. Thanks, Dave!
Hey Sarah. I see that you have some good home remedies. Also see good ways to lay and ways to be comfortable. I would recommend this to anyone that is having a baby for the first time or someone that is looking for some great information. Great job on the website also!
-Tony
One of my favorite natural remedies to use after having children is the recovery bundle that I recommend to all mothers. It sure beats just an ice pack and pain killer overall. Thank you for your comment, Tony!
Interesting post.
When I had my daughter nine years ago I didn’t even think to have a birth plan. But even if I had one I don’t think I could have stuck to it much.
I tried for natural birth and was in labour for six hours before they decided baby was too big and I had to go for a Caesar.
Well the main thing was at least I had a healthy baby and it all worked out in the end.
I’m glad it did work out for you. C-sections can often be life savers and they are the right thing for the right situations. Thank you for sharing Michel. Stop by anytime.